OUR FRIENDSHIP NEVER MISSED A BEAT.
Old friends from Fremont visited me two days ago. They were camped nearby and called. With a little background, Sandy and David Barron were the youngest members of our square dancing group, the Kuntry Kuzzins back in the early 1970’s. Square Dancing is one of those activities that you have to drag your husband too in the beginning, then once he realizes how much fun it is, he’ll go without you if you’re sick. So we enjoyed them, often teasing Sandy that she was the “baby” of the club even though she was a mother of two. We were excited when they bought a house. Sandy was always a bit shy. David, out going, from a large extended family. A nice young couple, building the American Dream.
We talked for several hours and I realized what an amazing couple they are. They look the same. Neither has aged much. David has less hair. I didn’t know David was a disabled Marine from Viet Nam. It never came up.
We checked through their pictures on the phone and I got to see the grandson David helped raise. Their son Mathew’s two beautiful daughters. A great-grandson. Neither Sandy nor Dave have a college education, but their daughter, Jennifer, has several degrees and a fantastic job. She worked during college days beside her mother as a motel maid, making beds and cleaning rooms. Sandy worked outside the home for 22 years. But, even more revealing to me, Sandy and Dave took in nine foster children. I had two foster children and love them and have contact to this day. But I was stunned at nine. What a commitment over all of those years.
What a pleasure to sink back into a friendship, after a long gap. I guess you can tell I’m impressed. I enjoyed getting caught up with mutual friends from our club. His sisters, brothers, step-father and some amazing tales. I didn’t know Sandy’s siblings.
They brought me flowers and I took pictures of the bouquet. This new computer is driving me nuts. I could not get those pictures out of my camera. So, you’ll have to settle for a poem by David J. Irvine, called Ownership.
Man’s pet, the kitten, lives nine lives.
Man one: three score and ten.
Man claims the ownership of earth,
Of every glebe and glen.
What modest claim do kittens make?
The ownership of men.
It speaks to the bonds of love… for Sandy and David, those loving bonds are kids and grandkids and other people’s children.